How it feels after being emotionally/mentally castrated

You must be aware of the popular notion that men are attracted to anything and everything sexual, like a dog to a bone! That part isn't inaccurate either. Yes, men are biologically hard-wired to seek sexual pleasure, sometimes at the expense of other survival instincts like hunger, as this article points out. 

While that may be true, it must be very puzzling then, if you are a young reader and you have real-world experience with many men in your life whose behaviour is exactly opposite that: men are seeking anything but. Not overtly. Not covertly. 

If you are a man with experience you probably know the case why that is so. But for all those who isn't a man, or is but young and inexperienced, let me tell you what's up: it's game over for us. We have officially lost the battle of the sexes. And we have accepted defeat. 

If you've been reading my blog, you must have come across my article "You are a utility". I explained why as a man, you are only worth whatever benefit others can derive from you. Other than that, you have zero worth. Nobody cares. Nobody gives a shit what happens to you. You could go out tonight and get hit by a car and die, and nobody would bat an eyelid for you - except your parents and siblings of course. 

The people who WILL cry, they won't cry because they miss YOU ---- they'll cry because they've lost their source of benefit. Now they'll have to find another. It's the same as someone who broke his/her expensive equipment. No difference. 

I find it funny that male deaths are depicted in such drama, like people ACTUALLY cared. I almost laugh when people say "we lost a good boy/man today". In my mind, I'm like " No sir, you lost your utility! You didn't give a damn about him when he was alive, and you sure don't give a damn about him now"! 

We men who've seen it all, we know it's a futile effort to go and pursue women who don't value you for who you are. I speak from personal experience: almost all women will want a good-looking partner. They will say that looks don't matter ---- just pick up any scientific study that measures facial attractiveness to mating success in males. You'd know. But just being good-looking won't cut it. You gotta have those resources too. You need to be a complete package. You need to have everything. 

Ah, yes! I know if you're a young man reading this--- I know that feeling.... The feeling of being butthurt. I know you're thinking something in the lines of "why does it have to be so hard for us..... ? ". Well chill out. You know nothing in this life is free with out labour. 

The grass isn't green on the other side either. A woman is picky because she GOT to be picky. She carries a lot of consequences if she's stepping into a relationship with a man. Aside the obvious physical burdens of getting pregnant, there's also the fact that too many relationships with men drains her "romantic energy" and dilutes her expectation. Double if she's anything below average looking. That's 40% of women in this world. They've got it shitty too, if not shittier. But unlike us men, they have one thing going for them. They have a vey good support system which protects them from being emotionally castrated. And they should. Speaking from an evolutionary point of view, should women start feeling like theyve had enough, we will literally be on the path to the extinction of our species. 

Then you'd ask what about men? Well, it's doesn't matter if a few, or even a major chunk of us decide to give up. If you want 10 babies you need 10 women (well obviously one woman may be enough but we're speaking in practical terms here). You don't need 10 men. 9 of them could just disappear and it won't make a difference. 

Like I said, utility of a man is what determines whether he'll be successful in the mating game. And if 1 man successfully accumulates enough resources and beats the other 9 by a large margin, he can have all the 10 women to himself. They'd all choose him. Women have done that in the past. That's why you hear of tales of kings having 100 wives. Women would rather share a successful husband than have a whole unsuccessful man to herself. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. 

And we experienced men know this. That's why some of us have chosen to exclude ourselves of this drama. Just switch off. Why compete? I don't want to compete with a man for the chance of accruing a liability. I won't. 

What I'd rather do is assimilate my efforts and trade my labour to the man who will be successful, perhaps assist him in attaining that success, in exchange for the extremely crucial resources that are necessary for my survival. 

The realization of this truth have mentally removed the desire to mate and seek out women for me and many others that I know. You are bound to experience a few of them in your own life, but I doubt they'll be vocal about it. It feels empowering. It feels free. It's not easy; it's hard. We have to go against our very nature and biology. Well, biology doesn't give a shit about your mental well-being. It'd pit you against each other. It'd see you destroy yourself only for the pursuit of a greater agenda; it's selfish. 

We are better off this way. At least we can be content. 

You are a utility.

 Let me show you a video of renowned actor and body builder Arnold Schwarzenegger:

Pretty awe-inspiring, isn't it?

I'm sure most of you have been hearing the same message from everyone whenever there was the question of attaining success: hard work hard work and hard work. Something that most people won't do. After all, we humans tend to choose the easiest way out of any situation. We like to get things done while exerting the least amount of strain on our physical selves. In fact, there is a popular saying in pop culture: if you have to choose between hiring an active vs a lazy fellow, choose the lazy one, because often times, the lazy person will find the easiest way to do the job. 

If that is true, then why do the forces of universe tend to reward the one who logs extra hours of work on his shift?

The answer is pretty straight-forward. The universe doesn't see you as a 'being with feelings and emotions'.

The world doesn't give a shit about your well-being or your health. 

What they do give a shit about, is how much you can 'produce'. How much you let others use yourself as a tool to fulfill their own needs, achieve their own goals. 

You are a utility. And a pretty good one at that. Usually, a non-living utility cannot take its own decisions. A hammer cannot guide itself to strike at the nail, no, it needs a human being with a brain to pick up that hammer and ram that nail in. Well, a self-guiding hammer would be cool, no doubt, and that's exactly the reality towards which we are heading, with the dawning of AI technology.

But until then, your body, your effort, your hard work, your muscle strength, and your will power to grind yourself into your work, menial or otherwise, is what the world needs. 

The more you grind, the more you will be rewarded. 

Then there's some people who preach that "you live only once. Live for yourself." I'm here to tell you that its all a sham. 

You never live for yourself. You're living for somebody else. You're living so that you can be a component in this huge machine that spins the wheel of society. 

You are valuable. But not in the way you think. 

You see, things like gold and diamond has an intrinsic value.

They are valuable because of their appearance. Their shine. Their twinkles. You don't ascribe the value of those things to their utility. 

But you're not gold. You're not a diamond. You are metal. You are like iron or steel. You are in great abundance, and the only way you could become valuable is if you provide some kind of value to another person.

Unhappy with your life? Don't dream. Work. Failing to bag that deal? You're not putting in the extra effort. Failing in your career? Seems like your dreams are out of reach? You're not trying hard enough.

Work Work and Work. Grind Grind and Grind. Work your butt off. Like Arnold says in the video, be like Muhammad Ali. Don't start counting until it starts to hurt. 

The universe cannot absorb your efforts. It has to give you some sort of reward of equal value in return. Like Sir Newton said, every action has an equal and opposite reaction. I'd go one step further and say: The magnitude of the reaction will always be equal to the magnitude of the said action. 

Take massive action. Work hard and work smart. But work you must. View yourself as a utility. Treat every obstacle you face as just a bump on the road. Treat failure as an occupational hazard, something you need to get through mandatorily in order to get what you want in life. 

Do that, and everything else will follow.

Peace.

The Name's Deus Phyllis

"The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion. "

This is a popular Quote by Albert Camus, a famous French Philosopher. When I first came across this quote, it really did hit me hard. Read them again, they are quite empowering/ After all, who doesn't want to be "free"? 

Freedom, as it turns out, is something that sells very well among most kinds of people. Mainstream sources like to cook up various stories and draw analogies about how we are living our 'mundane lives' in an 'unfree world', and then suddenly, someone somewhere does something extraordinary to free himself or herself from the chains that bind him/her to mediocrity. Oh! How awesome does it feel to read or see those stories! 

This quote takes the idea one step further: you don't need to do anything to free yourself; your mere existence if enough to get the job done. Wow! Pretty empowering. 

But I'm not here to talk about bullshit internet stories or mainstream propaganda. I am here to talk about real chains, real issues, real problems that we the modern generation face in our lives. Sometimes we are responsible for weaving the very web that binds us, and we spend decades trying to unweave that, and free ourselves from our own indulgences.

We live in a world where news ideas hatch every day, knowledge is manufactured at a faster pace than we could distribute them; and the world is full of people living along a very broad spectrum of thinking. I am not here to start any activism, rather I am here to try and uncover the truths of life and lay them out, raw and bare as much as they could get. 

This is Deus Phyllis, and I am here to make you think and cringe, and hopefully help you see the world with a brand new set of eyes. 

Peace.